By Caroline Colvin March 19, One of the best parts of living in the 21st century — an era bubbling with technological innovation!
Think contraceptives with the kinks smoothed out and high-tech vibrators, for example. But also, shoutout to the most underrated sex toy of all time: our phones. Apart from access to porn and IG thirst-traps, our phones give us the ability to trade spicy texts with potential lovers, have phone maturbation, and send nudes.
You may have sexted on Snapchat or dirty-talked on the phone before, but you might still be wondering: what is FaceTime sex?
It's the act of FaceTiming someone for the purposes of getting off together. It's just like traditional phone sexbut with the delicious bonus of a real-time, visual element.
Typically, FaceTime sex sessions will involve dirty talk and masturbation. Sometimes, it's an extension of your IRL sex life, and sometimes, FaceTime sex is wonderfully different.
FaceTime sex and Skype sex, and Facebook Messenger video call sex, and WhatsApp video chat masturbatin, too is a staple for people in long-distance relationships — I can co- that. But it's not exclusively for folks in LDRs. FaceTime sex is a hidden gem for anyone who's away from their partner or hookup for any amount of time, and gets struck with horniness. It's also nice because FaceTime itself can often force you to pay attention to your partner who's away.
This attentiveness is an important element of both virtual and IRL sex. They had FaceTime sex a few times a week. But when we did, it was lovely. She would send me the most sensual shots — not necessarily salacious, but simple things turned me on," says Ashley.
She would send me these photos and call me masturbating, knowing full well I was at work in my office. And as someone who gets anxious when meeting people in person, she also says FaceTime sex — with people she has met online — helped her get more comfortable with the idea of sharing her body with someone else. I just feel safer while I am exploring myself. FaceTime sex had come up before, but they had never actually done it. I remember being so surprised I couldn't even move until she began touching herself.
Then, it [was] on," Skye says. The experience was so memorable for Skye because she had always been the one to initiate in their relationship. They also make a point of setting the mood with teasing, nice lighting, and music.
Tamia currently masturbatioj with her parents and is "deathly afraid" of them hearing her dirty-talking. Headphones can go a long way, for starters. And asking your roommates for some alone time or confirming when they're going to be out with a he-up text as a safety net will be super helpful in planning your FaceTime sex sessions. As far as phone positioning goes, Sx Noiran inclusive sex educator whose focus is sex and tech, says "Get that tripod poppin'!
Once you've got your phone situation sorted and you're hands-free, Boyajian says, "Find an angle that focuses on areas of your body that feel sexy for you to share.
If you love your legs, get them in frame. That being said, they definitely recommend is practicing timr. Boyajian recommends We-Vibe sex toyswhich can be controlled remotely by your partner with the We Connect app. It'll never be like the real deal, so play into what makes it unique.
Adjusting the room's lighting, your clothing, and the space in general for maximum sensuality, comfort, and safety will all help the FaceTime call go smoothly. Try showering each other in compliments to gas each other up.
Maybe just have a normal conversation completely nude," Johnson says. And of course, communication is key, but it's especially encourage in FaceTime sex. Tell them when you dig what they're doing and also make sexy requests.
That means your emotional well-being and physical safety. Above anything else, Boyajian says, make sure that you trust the person you're having FaceTime sex with.
It is possible for someone to record their screen while you FaceTime — allowing them to record you without your knowledge — and there are also ways to snap pictures," they say. That just means you've got to think smart and take little precautions. Just like with sex IRL, you've got to make sure you're doing what you're comfortable with, and that sex is fun and wonderful, not stressful.
And just like with sex IRL, see each FaceTime sex session as a way to xhat pleasure, and learn more about yourself and your partner to feel even better in the future. Even though one type of sex is virtual and the other is flesh-and-blood, as Davis points out: both are rooted in the desire to increase intimacy with a partner and keep things fun. FaceTime sex can also unlock the door to better and unapologetic communication with your partner, too.